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December 23rd, 2005

my response to dad

*Don't send me things like that. Most of that shit just irritates me and reminds me why I want to live in Canada or Germany. I don't believe in God or any religion for that fact. I don't think 'Americans' should assimilate everyone into the AMERICAN WAY (insert vomit here). We should respect differenced and try to work with those who are different from us, not make them be 'American'.. Americans should learn other languages, most countries learn at least 3, and then we could communicate with our fellow Americans- the immigrants. Why do you think so many people are emigrating from the USA? WE SUCK! grr. I didn't think you had those radical beliefs about how our country should be ran, I am honestly surprised that you supported this email. Our family is so multicultural, I expected more from you. *

Ok, to elaborate a little on this scenario.. my dad has 3 sisters. One married a Jamaican, one a Pakistani, and the other a Puerto Rican. So, is he saying that we should disown our own family and ignore their religious beliefs? Should we not respect the people that we love because they are from countries who have other countries? Like the email said, we are all immigrants! There is NO SUCH THING as 'American culture' if there was then we'd ALL have the same way of life and beliefs.. but we don't. The fact that the email said OUR so many times - large, bold, and underlined, made me sick. That is what the problem is.. putting the US against THEM situation into place. There is no need for that. Most people who move to USA do learn the English language, they may not know it well at first but they learn standard english just to survive. To force them to lose their native language and become what some consider 'American' really irritates the hell out of me. For my father to send me that really pissed me off. The insinuation that there is an 'American lifestyle' and religion and everything else makes me sick. My dad supported this and that is even more disheartening. Would he say these things to my cousins who are 18, 15, 16 and tell them that they should just go eat pork and forget everything about their fathers culture? hell no. grr
my family can be so insane sometimes.

tonight tonight

I spent the most of my day cleaning the bedroom.. literally. Did laundry,threw shit out, and CLEANED. It's nice. I changed the fishes water so that it won't all be evaporated when we get home from Alabama. I can't believe that I am going to be there in 5 days. Anyway, tonight we went to Lucky's for dinner with Uncle Richard and Craig. It was a great meal with great conversation. We really don't see them enough. I feel that I fall more in love with them every time we see them and get to talking. I can talk about gay things with family! It's completely a trip and they get it. Craig totally understands the grandmother situation and how we get separate Xmas cards and are treated like this isn't a 'relationship'. WOW! I feel so much better when I hear someone who understands and has been there and knows that the Pettey family can be a little hard to wiggle your way into.. especially if you are doing it their way. It was great. Some family members were upset that they chose to spend their evening with us and not the entire family or at least include Tristia's grandparents. I really don't care because we had this planned a while ago and they all get to spend the next 2 days with them. Right now we are preparing to go to the bar bar. woohoo. Only staying for a short while because we are sleepy and Tris has to work in the morning. Tomorrow is another wasted day until she gets out of work. Every Christmas Eve the Pettey's get together at Gramma and Grandpa's house and open presents from eachother. I am nervous, I didn't get invited to this last year, so it's my first time. Everyone doing gifts is scary for me. It always makes me feel a little out of place, it always did with R's family. Oh well. I can do this, right? We get good presents from what I hear. I already know I got an OfficeMax gift card!! For Christmas we will be opening gifts that morning at 4am at our house with Ryan and Gary. That should be fun and then Tris goes to work and Ryan goes to home. Later that day we go to some of her family's house I haven't been to and haven't met. They sent us a card to Tristia and Bill I really can't wait for them to meet 'Bill'. haha. This time of year is so interesting.
My mom still hasn't got her presents from us yet. We sent 2 packages out on the same day and one got there today and the other still isn't there. I am going to be SO pissed if they box doesn't make it there. It has that scrapbook we (gary and I)worked our asses off on. Oh, did I mention Gary plans to move back to Florida to be with his friends and our fantastic father? yea, we haven't really discussed it but he said he really wants to. Well, good for him, I guess, if its his thing.
will finish primping and off to the Triangle.. the only bar to go to lol.