October 23rd, 2010

tea time

Writer's Block: Family planning

If you wanted to have children and had trouble conceiving, would you be more likely to consider IVF, surrogacy, or adoption, and why?

 I am one of those people who has "trouble" conceiving and I am going through the process of artificial insemination. It is the first stop in a long list of things we can do to get pregnant. After a certain amount of inseminations that are not successful, they will drop me as a client or talk me into other, more invasive procedures like IVF, GIF etc. Our insurance covers the inseminations so it's the cheapest route for us right now. We do pay out of pocket each time we insem but nothing like it'd be for IVF. Insurance doesn't cover that and we'd be out $10k per month potentially to do that. Surrogacy wouldn't be a bad idea because I believe that I have loved ones who would carry my child if I couldn't. Adoption is always in our minds but it's more costly and a long process... I find that everything dealing with bringing a child into our lives is a process. There are no quick answers and there are no guarantees. I want to be pregnant and birth my own children so I'll do what I can until we can't afford it or have decided to try something else.